Singly Dating

The life of a single man...

Not a tough thing by any stretch, if you believe me on that. The only thing tough about being a single guy is when you don't want to be single anymore. When that happens, a single guy will need to go out into the wild and find that woman that you want to date (for a while...maybe). It use to be that, with the right combination of cologne, clothing and tasty breath a guy could stroll (stumble) into their local bar and find a woman who was willing to give out her phone number. However, now that we live in the twenty-first century, everything is digital. So now we pick our potential mates by dating sites (which at times resemble retail catalogs) and ask for emails (or myspace URLs).

After months of refusing to give in to the demands of my friends to join a site...I'd decided to go ahead and sign up for them....well all of them.

My thoughts were that each website offered a different experience, even though each website was about connecting two single people together in hopes that they will be the perfect match for each other.

Match.com: It was an okay website. The one thing that annoyed me about this website was that all the matches never panned out. And don't get me started on the fake profiles that litter the site. I was continuously having to report profiles, because the profiles never added up to what the person wrote or where they were from. Also, (in my opinion) it seem very hard being a single black male on this website. Slim pickings when it came to women who were interested in single black males, especially in this town. Verdict: I've completely deleted my profile and will not rejoin Match.com in the future.

Cupid.com: This website was like dealing with a water-down version of Match.com. Almost all of the same problems I had encountered with Match.com were present with this website. One frustrating thing was the limited amount of single women who matched up to what I was looking for (and that was even after I made my general search broad trying to encompass any woman that came close to it). Another thing that I had noticed were the fake profiles again. Now I've heard rumors of dating sites using fake profiles to entice customers into getting a subscription for these paid dating websites. Usually these fake profiles have a model looking woman, who has bad grammar, and doesn't live anywhere close to you (like in Belgium)...but still wants to go out on a date. Again, I was disappointed with the offering of single women in my area that this site had to offer, but I guess there's no changing that. Verdict: I've completely deleted my profile and will not rejoin Cupid.com in the future.

eHarmony.com: Out of all the dating websites I have tried, using this website was a bit refreshing. Unlike the other websites where I would have to go out and practically hunt down a woman that comes close to what I want to take out on a date. eHarmony.com would have a few matches (some days I was lucky to get one) that in their opinion matched up to what I was looking for. As far as fake profiles go, I had only encountered just one fake profile (compared to the 3-4 fake profiles of the other websites). The only drawback about eHarmony.com is the amount of single who actually take the time to do the whole "Guided Communication process." I've had people that would start out the process and just kind of trail off, where I never hear from them again. Sometimes it does feel like you are filling out questions for the SATs. I have met so far one person from the eHarmony website, the date didn't go as well as I thought it would, but you have to use it as a learning process and move on. Verdict: I enjoy using this website. Just wish more of the matches would respond. Still not getting a whole lot of matches in my city, but that's no surprise. I'll stick with this website for a while longer (maybe another 3-4months).

Well I'll keep posting updates as the quest to get a date continues.