Fate

Fate...

What a funny word that is. People throw it around, praising it as if THAT word is the Holy Grail of vocabulary, expecting to make say, "You know what, yes I'll drop what every I' am doing because FATE, told me so."

All of this stemming from a conversation with dear old [crazed] uncle of the family. (Don't get me started on why the man has a pay phone in his home, or a coke/vending machine in the patio). I won't bore everyone with the word-for-word details. But it was mostly him talking, with me doing my normal "hmmm mmm; [repeat whatever the person said last]; and right, right". Every single time we talk, the conversations seems to always seem to turns to me and where I am going with my life. Apparently on that cold October night there must of been a office pool or some Las Vegas bet as to which child would be the breadwinner of the family.

And guess which person everyone seems to be putting their money on...[I'll give you one guess]

I would guess the one thing that upset me more about the conversation was that my uncle would say, paraphrasing here: "That it is my fate to be afraid to try new things. And that I was destined to be stuck in the middle never accomplishing anything."--yeah I know that first sentence did not make much sense to me either, when he said.

All this time I thought FATE was this thing I could not control. This abstract idea that somewhere in a far away land, that there was this person, with a book who had everything decision I was suppose to make, mapped out. Apparently all this time FATE was just me acting like a wuss, and not wanting to invest in some crazy relatives scheme of condo sales. Bet he never knew that I had realized his true intentions.

As far as FATE goes, I am not much a believer in that. I believe that if my future is already written, than it is written in pencil. Meaning that I am the principle author about how My story should be played out.

I would of used Destiny, but I think both of those words are somewhat intertwined.

I was going to end this on some witty quote, but I couldn't find one. But I did find one from one of my favorite novels, The Alchemist (written by Paulo Coelho). A story that is all about a man realizing his destiny, and how he effects the destines of others that he meets on his journey. It is a great book, and if you are able to find it, to pick it up and read it.

"When we least expect it, life sets us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny." ~ Paulo Coelho

until next time,